So how do we handle in-law problems after we’re married? A starting point is to hold in tension two God-given principles: The first is to separate from parents (leave and cleave) and the second is to honour our parents. It’s not a question of either… or, but both… and. As a mother-in-law and a counsellor, I know that a critical and controlling spirit is a lethal combination which can wreck family relationships.

